Feeling self conscious about food choices in public

(Duncan Kerridge) #21

I think you’re right.

But don’t listen to me :wink:

(Dustin Cade) #22

I think about this, not so much with eating in public, more so with my shopping cart… bags of pork rinds, butter, meat, the only visually “healthy” thing in my cart is bags of frozen veggies… though I’m not really worried about it, I’m somewhat intimidating looking in person… if you speak with more for more than 3 seconds that falls away… so i do not really worry about it much…

(Michelle) #23

But wait, you ARE normal!!! I would never think of anyone on a diet of any kind as “normal”. How many of us know people on a “diet”? Maybe they are following a mainstream SAD diet, but don’t ever think of yourself as not “normal” because you are choosing a WOE that fits with your beliefs.

(Crow T. Robot) #24

I love it when people give me grief about my food choices because it gives me a chance to ketovangelize. Though, to be honest, most conversations go something like this:

Them: “Oh, I don’t think I could eat that much fat.”

Me: “Don’t sell yourself short. I think you could if you worked at it.”

Them: “Uh…”

That’s usually the last time I hear any kibbitzing.

(Meeping up the Science!) #25

I rarely get food comments. In the end I would continue what you are doing. If people comment on my food I ignore it and simply change the topic. Even as a bariatric patient, no one comments on my food, and for a while I was eating purees. Only once did someone ever comment on what I was eating, and it was in a shameful and loud way at internship. They did not repeat that mistake.

At any rate, do not give up having lunch with your coworkers. Also, do not acknowledge what they say. You have only so much time in the day, why spend it on crappy comments? Direct your focus to something else, go back to other conversations, and so on. They will get the message if they have any social skills whatsoever. You can directly say something too, but that is up to you. :slight_smile:

(Siobhan) #26

Well there is normal as in normal and normal as in normative, average, or statistically most common.

Keto is unfortunately not normal, or something you are likely to come across with the average person.
Keto is perfectly normal in the sense that it is natural and healthy, but not normal in that it is not very common.
And the way our bodies react to keto and SAD are normal in both meanings of the term.

But perhaps keto will once again become “normal” :wink:

(Keto in Katy) #27

Have fun with this. Be the Crazy Fat-Eating Person in the room. Put buttered mayonnaise on your bacon-wrapped ribeye. Eat all the fat things everywhere.

I do this all the time and it makes stupid people avoid me, which is all I wanted in the first place.

(Dustin Cade) #28

Like this… Oh those steaks!

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(Mike Glasbrener) #29

The only thing I can blame is IBS, and luckily this ‘explains’ all the missing carbs, but I still need to justify the fat. Bah, I really need to stop giving a f*** what other people think :rage:

I wish I could give this a HUGE LIKE!!!

I started about 3.5-4 months ago and my coworker are pretty cool. I was worried a little bit when we went to a restaurant 1.5weeks ago and I was fasting. I had water. But they were totally cool about it. They didn’t question, tease nor taunt. Which was good because I would have distanced myself from them if they were so callous.

So I COMPLETELY AGREE!!! If they continue poor behavior tell them to step off… It’s your personal choice.

(Cathrine Helle) #30

:smile: How liberating!

I really should embrace it more - even though this is out of character for me. To be fair, most people are way too polite to comment. But the judgement is real, even though nothing’s said. Standing out and being different is always a bit difficult (for me at least). I feel different and eccentric in so many other ways that I sort of felt that adding a controversial WOE to the mix just seals the deal :stuck_out_tongue:

Thanks for all the supportive replies in this thread! I’m so glad I found this community :smiley:

(Allie) #31

It’s nothing to do with anyone else, let them think what they like while they stuff themselves with carbage and wreck their bodies…

(Joe) #32

I feel the same way sometime but I tell people that I am on a diet and am happy with the results. I also say I’m enjoying the results better than i do by eating that piece of pizza or sugary cookie, when I say that, they usually have something positive to say and we continue to do what we where doing.

(Joley) #33

The head of the training department at my job does keto and that’s how I heard about it. One of my co-workers was constantly saying “that can’t be healthy the way she eats.” This is the same co-worker who tried to tell me that pasta is good for you. When I started doing it and I felt good and lost 8 pounds my first week (which I know was water weight) she came up to me and said “do you still have the meal plans you made for your first week on keto?” I just rolled my eyes and said yes.

(Mike Glasbrener) #34

Not her fault… At least she was open to change quickly and if she converts you have another local person who is Keto.

(Joley) #35

She won’t do it because she can’t have beans and she doesn’t want to cut out pasta because her husband really enjoys going for ramen.

(Andrew Anderson) #36

Keto. Unrepentant, and not ashamed! That’s my mantra now. At work they say “your looking good what are you doing?” I say, “butter and bacon.” I am lucky to have a great workplace, but I have also never played embarrassed. We have to good of a lifestyle to keep a secret!

(Bruce Burkhalter) #37

Time to turn the tables…when they make comments, tell them they probably wouldn’t understand the science behind ketosis. If they persist offer to send them links to some of the scientific papers, videos or books if they are really interested in the science. Be ready to send links…as you know there are a lot of them. I like to send links to Dave Feldmen’s video about cholesterol tests (https://youtu.be/jZu52duIqno) or Dr. Troy Stapleton’s video about sustaining a ketogenic diet over time (https://youtu.be/hxs63lOOH0U) you can drown them in information…who knows maybe even do a conversion…hey, it worked on my skeptical doctors…Dave Feldman’s video really got my Endo’s attention.

(Amber Davidson) #38

Grocery shopping I pass by a couple shopping together. I think at least 700 lbs combined. I hear them discussing heading over “for margarine”

I really wanted to say, “Nooo, that’s poison!!!”
And hand them a Kerry gold.

I just wish the truths were out there for everyone to know… So frustrating.

(CharleyD) #39

Best case, especially at restaurants, is to get to know your servers and become a ‘regular’. Within a year you’ll get half a stick of butter (sometimes even MELTED for you) with your orders and no one blinks an eye :smile:

(Brian) #40

I never have any issue. I eat what I want. If anyone has a problem with that, sorry. I really don’t worry about it.

I try not to be rude about it but I don’t hide my choices either. Seeing that most of the people I’d be eating with have probably noticed that there is between 50 and 60 pounds less of me than there was 6 months ago, am getting out of my chair much easier, and am walking with a much lighter step, it’s a little harder for them to tell me I’m ruining my health. Plus, it’s a little harder for them to say too much when at the end of a meal, I don’t want a bunch of sugar to top it off like they do. After all, everybody knows about sugar being bad…

Be yourself and don’t apologize for being you. If someone wants to have a real conversation, have one. If someone is just chiding, chide back or ignore it and just move on. If they’re obnoxious, maybe you need new friends. (?)